- The Prelude.
- As beautiful women, we are victims of society's views... and in this case, our worth is being determined by our physical attributes. We created this blog to display our beautiful THOUGHTS and VIEWS on different topics. Our views are ignited by our passions, and our passions are beautiful. We hope you enjoy this ignited beauty.
Thursday, December 24, 2009
Marriage: legal or religious ceremony that formalizes the decision of a man and woman to live as husband and wife, including the accompanying social festivities. Via dictionary.com
The “accompanying social festivities” part is the only part that seems easy to put together to me, and just to put things in perspective it takes about a year to plan a wedding.
Unfortunately, the place I am in my life right now comes with the constant reminder of marriage and family. Along with people in my life who worry about their relationship status too much and see marriage as a goal that they MUST eventually reach and every major decision they make, the idea of marriage is considered.
Now, don’t get me wrong, I do want to get married…. someday, but it is not something I dwell on.
I believe that marriage comes to you when it is SUPPOSED to, when God wills it for you. No matter how hard you try to alter who you are to please someone you believe to be “ perfect”. Perfect, they are not ..trust me I’ve been there… No one is perfect …they are only perfect for you.
Don’t ever settle! Make sure this individual fits all that you want in your eternal partner. For example, here are a few things that I would never compromise: He has to be Muslim, educated, kind, understanding, funny , and open to new things.
Now, these are mine…what are yours? Make a list so that you know what you want, concretely.
You must also keep in mind how serious the commitment of marriage is. When you marry someone you are PROMISING forever to that person, divorce should not be an option you fall back on, but a last resort.
When you are considering someone you should keep in mind compatibility not only love. Ask yourself; do I like this person? Don’t think about how good they look ..or how hot your kids will be…or how much money they make or the family they come from. Do you like them? Could you spend everyday with them?
If you can say yes to that question, then by all means! Go for it! Make it forever!
I just believe that every marriage should be that fairytale. The one beautiful day where you marry the person you love and sixty years later you still look at them the way you did on your wedding day. So, make smart decisions not ones just in haste or that are a product of outside pressures. It is your life, your love, and your future.
I wish that for all of you…
Friday, October 30, 2009
Thank you! ...remember it is a HUMAN ISSUE! it is a issue of FREEDOM!
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I have many friends and family that have a different opinion and I am in no way questioning or disrespecting their belief. Which brings me to my next topic... I have been researching Islam. Several things have attracted me... such as equality and the five basic pillars. Equality means so much to me in every aspect of my life. Growing up in an ethnically diverse family, where I found my own family to be prejudice because of my skin color. Being around that has completely changed my perspective, in terms of how all people should be treated and how I should be treated as a child of God. Islam teaches that all of us are equal in sex, race, economical status, etc...
In Catholicism, I have always wondered why women have never had a high position in the church, and the few times I found they had any control its like the church created controversy, which usually resulted in the woman leaving the church. The highest level in holy orders for a woman in a Catholic Church is a nun. The formal definition of a nun is a "sister" of prayer and worship; she is usually assisting the needy, sick, poor, and undereducated... and is equivalent to a monk...?? Not even equivalent to a Priest, which is known as "father", who is primarily responsible for delivering the word to the congregation. --Nun (Sister) Vs Priest (Father)-- Like I expressed, equality is important to me, and in this aspect Islam is more appealing.
In Islam’s Five Pillars, I find the importance of prayer challenging yet intriguing. Honestly, I don't pray often. I admit that prayer is not a habit of mine. It is not like I don't want to pray… It's because of lack of practice... Or more so not doing it daily and really consciously making an effort to pray. I’m thinking that with... learning, living, and understanding the five daily prayers may help me fully appreciate the power of prayer and how it could be the life changing experience I need, just maybe. With all of these differences, there are some similarities that truly captivate me as well. Islam is belief in one God (Allah) the creator, Islam also obeys the ten commandments (as Christians do), fasting is prevalent in both, charity, and Eschatology has some similarities as well. With ALL of this said, I have quite a journey ahead of me... I will keep you informed!
Lord, guide me in this Journey. Amen.
Friday, October 23, 2009
Thursday, October 22, 2009
Let me start by saying that I am by no means a theologian nor am I an Islamic scholar, but I am a Muslim who practices Islam on a daily basis. I will do my best to explain the beauty, the fundamentals of Islam and what it means to me.
What is Islam?
Islam consists of five basic pillars that are:
1. Proclamation of faith or the Shaddah; “ I proclaim that there is no God but God and Muhammad son of Abdullah is his last and final messenger.
2. Five daily prayers or Salat.
3. Zakat or Alms giving
4. Fasting during the holy month of Ramadan
5. Performing the Hajj, a pilgrimage to Mecca.
An important element is the prophet Muhammad (peace be upon him) the final prophet of God, who we believe placed the seal on the monotheistic faith. We believe that NO prophets will be sent after him and he was sent for ALL of mankind. Therefore, he is loved and held to a high standard by all Muslims.
Now to discuss what about this faith seems to ignite my heart with humility?
It is no secret that my family has been immersed deeply in this faith for over a thousand years, and that of course has had a huge impact on the woman I am today. It is present in the choices I make, the people I surround myself with, and my daily behavior. One must understand Islam is not only a religion but also a lifestyle.
Islam is one of the three major monotheistic faiths of the world; the other two being Christendom and Judaism. All three faiths have much in common, but also differ…
For instance, we do not believe that Jesus ( pbuh) is divine but that he is a prophet of God but NOT the son of God. The idea of having God having a son is considered blasphemy in Islam. The Quran explains it here,
"Christ, the son of Mary, was no more than a messenger; many were the messengers that passed away before him. His mother was a woman of truth. They had both to eat their (daily) food. See how God makes His signs clear to them; yet see in what ways they are deluded away from the truth!" (5:75).
"He [Jesus] said: 'I am indeed a servant of God. He has given me revelation and made me a prophet; He has made me blessed wheresoever I be; and He has enjoined on me prayer and charity as long as I live. He has made me kind to my mother, and not overbearing or miserable. So peace is on me the day I was born, the day that I die, and the day that I shall be raised up to life (again)!' Such was Jesus the son of Mary. It is a statement of truth, about which they (vainly) dispute. It is not befitting to (the majesty of) God that He should beget a son. Glory be to Him! When He determines a matter, He only says to it, 'Be,' and it is" (19:30-35).
Makes sense doesn’t it?
Another thing that I love about this religion is the emphasis on equality between all people, regardless of sex, race, or economic status. When you’re Muslim, you’re that first and that sort of mentality creates a unity. Not to say that all Muslims adhere to this, but it is fundamental part of Islam, equality among all people.
Islam also encourages women to dress modestly, so that they are noticed for their minds instead of their physical beauty. However, western media has twisted this into an image of oppression. ß Simply not true. Nothing in Islam is forced. You only do because its what you believe is right. One must remember, Islam only requires you cover your hair, NOT your face. Unfortunately, much of what is culture is confused for faith. Although, I have not committed to covering my hair, I plan to do so soon, Inshallah (God willing).
My favorite thing about this faith is the love, God’s love, compassion, and mercy that he has bestowed upon mankind. In Islam we are taught that God is the most forgiving and compassionate, and he will forgive and answer prayers that one comes to him with. Being able to go to God with one’s problems gives mankind hope, because knowing that one can absolved of their sins gives them the motivation to do better. Personally, knowing that if I honestly repent my sins and that God will forgive them makes me feel loved. And its an unconditional, eternal love.
In Islam I know that God is ALWAYS there to listen and forgive. ß This is the upper echelon of infinite love.
Also, in Islam God encourages love within family, and elevates family to the upmost importance. The Quran dictates that a child must obey their parents unless what the parents are asking goes against an Islamic belief. Illustrated in this statement made by the prophet Muhammad ( pbuh) when asked what would help one the most when trying to obtain a place in heaven.
“ Heaven is underneath the foot of your mother”
Beautifully said isn’t it?
In addition, Muslims look at one another as family and this sort of mentality encourages a strong community, or Ummah. This is expressed beautifully through the Muslim greeting, “ As Salaam Alykum” meaning, “may peace be upon you” ß an obvious expression of love, granting someone peace.
Islam is my foundation, my heart, and the light of my life. I am humbled to have been blessed enough to be apart of this faith. I hope that you may now understand why I have this faith to me is beautiful.